It is very difficult to get children to share their things and imbibe on their minds that sharing is, in fact, a good thing. Moreover, ownership of things is a pretty messed up concept when it comes to kids.
They believe that what is theirs is theirs, and what is not theirs but looks good and doesn’t belong to anyone, in general, can also be theirs. Here is a humorous rhyme I saw while looking it up on the internet, which is supposedly been written by T Barry
Here is a humorous rhyme I saw while looking it up on the internet, which is supposedly been written by T Barry Brazelton for the Syndicate Weekly.
If I want it, its mine
If I give it to you and change my mind later,
If I can take it away from you, its mine.
If I had it a while age, it’s mine.
If it’s mine, it will never belong to anyone
else no matter what.
If we are building something together,
All the pieces are mine.
If it looks just like mine, it is mine.
These words perfectly define what a child feels and thinks about toys or sweets or anything that comes in his or her universe in general.
Calling things theirs is not just a rude thing, but it can also potentially make your child a little selfish as he/she grows up in their later lives.
There needs to be a balance between sharing things and not sharing them, and here, we are just going to expound how to achieve that.
Charity Begins at Home
And like the charity so does everything else. Even sharing. So when you are playing with your toddler, it is important to teach them the importance of sharing by making them pass you things and passing things to them yourself. This will infuse an early sense of sharing in your child, which will be very useful to them in their later lives.
Show Them The Excitement
If your child sees that you are as excited as them to try their new game or help them build their Lego set, they are very likely to give you their games and toys to play and this is the behavior that will also help them in the outside world to share things with other children who look equally excited.
Help Them Socialize
Of course, you cannot expect your child to share their things when they have just met someone new for the first time. The catch here is to take them out to a park or a garden and help them socialize with other kids. Once your child knows that there are more kids out there with similar interests and likes, he or she would definitely be more inclined to share things.
If you ask your child his or her permission before touching their toys, it becomes a whole lot of different story. If the child is assured that you are politely asking for the toys and not going to destroy them, they’re more willing to give it you, than they would be otherwise.
Do Not Punish Your Kids for No Reason At All
Kids tend to get a little fussy when they have to share their toys for the first time or use something in turns. This can be very frustrating for them and may result in a lot of crying and at times, even a little bit of scratching or so, but do not let that lose your calm and do not punish your kids for such things because if you act patiently, your kids will surely learn.
All said and done, it is also important to know, however, that it is not necessary to always share toys and games.
Just like an adult going to a park is not supposed to share his ice-cream with other adults who come rushing to him to ask for it, a kid is not always supposed to share his toys with others and as a parent, you also need to teach your kid that it is not always right to expect other kids to share their things or toys.
For sometimes, you never know which kid might turn out to be autistic and feel scared when other kids hustle him/her to share the toys. So, take that precaution.